Ok, I finally got the stars to align and all of my pictures uploaded into Photobucket--here goes......
The junction box under the dash, to the left of the steering column, with the brake controller harness plugged in--harness plug is at top left corner with the larger red & blue and several smaller wires coming out the back of the plug.
Junction box with the light bar harness plugged in same location---you have to remove the brake controller plug. The brake controller plug is off to the right, unplugged--hey, it's one or the other, not both!
Fuse box under the hood--the absolute top left fuse is where the 50A goes in; mine has a 60A fuse b/c I was guessing at the parts store. This is the fuse that feeds the trailer 7-pin connector with power to charge your trailer batteries. My fuse box originally had a "blank" red plastic plug filling the fuse spot, it resembled the fuse, but was just a square piece of plastic.
The lid for the fuse box under the hood lists the50A fuse location as "Stud #1*". The note says the fuse function & amperage will vary with vehicle content.